September 1st syndrome: why are parents more afraid of the start of the school year than their children?

      Alexander Votintsev, a clinical psychologist, neuropsychologist, and perinatal psychologist at the Sovermed network of medical centers, talks about how to manage yourself and avoid turning the anticipation of the new school year into stress for you and your child.

      Parents’ stress before September 1 is not just fatigue from running around stores. It is a complex psychological state caused by a sudden increase in demands, financial pressure, and the fear of not meeting expectations.

      One of the key causes is financial costs. Back-to-school expenses become a heavy burden on the family budget, especially when it comes to clothing, modern gadgets, and extracurricular activities. Many parents admit they feel guilty if they cannot afford everything they want to give their child.

      The emotional aspect is no less important. Parents worry about how their child will fit into the class, cope with the curriculum, and get along with teachers. These worries are often amplified by comparisons with other families — the neighbors bought a more expensive backpack, and a colleague enrolled their child in a prestigious school.

      Organizational meetings also contribute. The summer routine with its loose schedule suddenly changes to a strict timetable with early wake-ups, lessons, homework, and clubs. This requires parents to be extremely organized and to multitask.

      What can help?

      Start with realistic planning. Instead of trying to do everything at once, make a list of priority tasks. School uniform and basic stationery are more important than a perfectly organized workspace or a designer backpack.

      You can reduce the financial burden by setting aside money for school needs in advance and avoiding impulsive purchases. Remember: more expensive does not always mean better.

      It is important to talk openly with children — ask about their expectations and fears, and do not dismiss their feelings. Sometimes a heartfelt conversation relieves tension more than expensive shopping.

      And above all — allow yourself to be imperfect. School is a marathon, not a sprint. Occasional setbacks do not define your success as a parent.

      If anxiety becomes a constant background, interferes with sleep and work, do not hesitate to consult a specialist. Sometimes a few sessions with a psychologist help relieve the nervous system more than months of struggling with stress on your own.

      Remember, preparing for school should not be a test of endurance. By shifting the focus from perfection to sufficiency, you not only preserve your resources but also set an example for children of a healthy attitude toward life.